I'm thankful to be able to say that I'm a mom. I cherish every moment of fun, frustration, laughter and tears with my boys, there isn't a better job on the planet, I'm so thankful that I get to be here for them through their childhood and hopefully create some good memories for them. I'm thankful that I have somehow become a pretty good mom, despite my lack of a mother.... My mom is causing a lot of drama, I don't even want to talk about what she is doing, but I do want to talk about what is in my head and heart today. 16 years ago tomorrow my dad died and my mom came completely un-glued, it was nothing new, just part of the cycle that has always been my mom. I hate that I ever have hope that this time she will FINALLY get her act together and maybe even be you know, a mom. But she is consistent in one thing, and one thing only, letting her family down and turning into a complete nut job. I wish this Mother's Day was filled with a brunch or a nice dinner and flowers and remembering all the happy memories that mom created for us as children, like it would be with my husband's family if my mother-in-law was at home. Instead it's filled with frustration and sadness and wondering what the hell is she going to do next.
I guess I have gotten how to be a mom from my amazing grandmother, or perhaps just thinking, "what would my mom do?" and doing the opposite. One thing I have learned from my mother is that I do not EVER want my children to think the same way about me as I do about her.
I'm thankful for my amazing grandmother and the fact that she has sacrificed so much for me and my sister. I'm thankful that she was willing to step up to the challenge of taking on a 2 year old when her youngest was almost done with elementary school. I have learned to love and do whatever it takes to help out my family from her. She is kind, giving, charitable and most of all she loves with all her heart. I hope I can be like my grandma and don't mind too much when someone says, "you're just like your grandma." Even though it's usually teasing me that I have forgotten where my keys are or what time my appointment is.
I miss her fiercely and realize how much I depend on her when she isn't here. My boys adore her, and frankly so do I. Happy Mother's Day grandma!