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Wednesday, February 17, 2010

It's a boy

So unless the umbilical cord was in between its legs, we will have 3 sons. Yes, I'm disappointed only because I'm 90% sure this is my last pregnancy and I really really wanted to have a girl. Oh well....
We also decided to do the AFP test that detects the likelihood of Down's Syndrome and other genetic disorders, I wish we wouldn't have. It came back with a 1 in 40 chance that he has spinal bifida. A genetic counselor is going to call tomorrow to talk to us more about it. We could do an amniocentesis to make 100% sure that he doesn't but that can lead to a miscarriage, and if we find out the doc said there isn't anything we can do to help it except that upon birth being prepared for it. Or we could decide to terminate the pregnancy if it came back as positive, but we would never do that. But the doctor did an ultrasound today and she looked at his brain and his spine and she said that if she didn't know that the baby has the chance of spinal bifida she would think that the baby looks great, she seemed very optimistic, which made me feel better, and I liked her more this time around than I did last time...


Confessions of a Closet Hoarder but you can call me Judy said...


Don't worry. The disappointment is temporary. When we found out our third was also going to be a girl, her oldest sister burst out crying that she wasn't going to have a brother. She was 5 when we found out, and she really, really wanted a little brother. And while we were hoping for a little boy, too, we were thrilled with our little girl by the time she got here. You will be, too. I promise! :O)

Also...don't worry about a 1/40 chance of spina bifida. That's only a 2.5% chance. And even if he does have SB, many people function totally normally with it. One of my friends had it years ago, and it didn't affect her in any way, shape or form.

Please just don't worry yourself over it. I know. It's easier said than done, but worrying really can't change anything about it at all. And worrying could increase your blood pressure, and you don't need that.

Just rest assured that God knows what's going on with you and your little boy. He knits us together in our mother's wombs. None of us are a mistake. Ever.

You remain in my prayers.

Confessions of a Closet Hoarder but you can call me Judy said...

"Also...don't worry about a 1/40 chance of spina bifida. That's only a 2.5% chance."

I forgot to mention ...that also means that there's a 97.5% chance that it's NOT spina bifida! That's really good odds that there's nothing wrong. :o)

Sovic Clan said...

I wuv you girl!!!! Yay for your little football team! I think you make the most adorable little men ever!!! Yay!! He will be just fine, and as adorable as his big brothers!!! LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU!!!

Derek-Jenny-Kaitlynd-Ethan-Dylan said...

He is going to be TOTALLY fine!
What an adorable brood you are going to have. WOW!
I know this boy is going to be the perfect addition to your family!

Love you SO much!

steph said...

I can still see you :). Everything will be great Tiffy! Someone has to have all the cute little gentlemen to marry my little ladies ha ha. LOVE YOU!

Anonymous said...

congrats! i know you were hoping for a girl...but just think, being the only girl means you get to be spoiled.....lets hope im sure the tests will go fine. Im always thinking of you and praying for a save pregnancy. Love you!

The Boob Nazi said...

My mom had three boys and then two girls... So maybe you could get pregnant one more time?!? haha Congrats on the boy!!!

Trishelle said...

You are an amazing woman! Congratulations!! You have the most adorable little boys which you're destined to repeat!

I really love what Judy said...what a doll!

I'm going to be completely honest with you. When Lulu's ultrasound showed she was a girl, I cried.

Then with RP, I went into the bathroom and sobbed. In fact, they had given me an ultrasound a month earlier and told me she was probably a girl and I refused to believe it. Then I felt guilty.

Fast forward a year and all I can think about is how much I adore my baby and wouldn't change a hair on her head!!

You are truly a wonderful mother to those boys...both born and unborn!

By the way, with Lulu and RP, the doctors were concerned about some of the test findings as well. Heather B. pointed something out to me a while back...

She reminded me that there have been so many advancements in technology. For the first time in the history of the world, we are able to catch a glimpse of fetal development we were previously unable to see. As babies develop, their bodies are figuring things out. What may appear to be disconcerting could very possibly be corrected by the next observation and even more likely corrected by birth. I hope that makes sense. She articulated it much more appropriately.

Sell...Party Of 4 said...

I am ridiculously excited that you are having a boy, because after all my lil' guy needs a lot of friends!